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Unconditional love

Giving unconditional love requires you to love without any expectations. It seems difficult to only love and not demand anything in return in today’s world where everyone is selfish and egotistic. But even in this world we see many examples of unconditional love, for example the love of a mother to her child, the love between two life partners and the love bestowed upon siblings. Loving someone unconditionally means we have to learn how to sacrifice our selves, our desires, and most importantly our egos for we are not suppose to expect anything from the person we love.

It’s true that love makes its way itself. When we love somebody with so much passion and emotion, it’s sure to come round in one way or another. But if somehow we don’t get as much as we give, we must realize not to complain or argue because in order to love someone else unconditionally, we must first love ourselves and accept the fact that as humans we all have faults and blemishes, and will inevitably make mistakes. We must be aware of our own imperfections and realize that since we are not perfect, others won’t be either. Always keep in mind that loving others and giving them everything we have will make us satisfied and happy with ourselves.

At some point in our lives, we all demand some kind of love and want to express our own love for someone. Believe in the principle of giving more and demanding less. When someone asks you for a favor always be ready to give it. Never complain that you don’t have enough or you have other tasks to do. Set your priorities in such a way that everyone else comes first and your own demands come last.

Let us keep in our hearts that when we love somebody unconditionally, we want the best for that person. Think positively about them even if they make mistakes or do not return our feelings. Give them sincere advice about their future and other decisions. Always look around for the betterment of your loved ones without any envy on your part. If you have to sacrifice something of your own for them, don’t hesitate to do so. Only then you will truly be able to love unconditionally.

Remember that unconditional love is given without any expectations or limitations. We don’t define any scope of our love or that how long will we love a person. This is an eternal feeling which should be kept alive in all circumstances and all situations. We must never lose hope and keep on loving people who are dear and close to us, only then we will be able to live a completely satisfied and emotionally balanced life.

Now being yesterday was valentines and all. I really thought about loving unconditionally. My wife and I went to dinner and then to the movie The Vow. If you haven’t heard of the movie here’s the premise:
A husband endeavors to win back his new bride’s heart after she loses her memory in a tragic car accident in this romantic drama starring Rachel McAdams and Channing Tatum.

Basically, a man and woman get in a car accident. Woman loses her memory of the last 5 years or so and therefore forgets her husband. Her memories revert back to high school friends, family, and her previous engagement. Meanwhile her husband has to try to win her heart back. Ok, so back to the point unconditional love are we capable of that? I ask myself this question and I grasp for answers like grasping at straws. As a husband who loves his wife as much as he possibly knows how, I wish I could say “yes”. However, I don’t know how, nor believe that people know how to love unconditionally. When we walk into a relationship, we walk in with expectations of how the relationship should conduct itself. Most have relationship expectations of loyalty, respect, honesty, perseverance, compassion, and sacrifice. Now if all these and many more qualities are met we can love easily. However what if your spouse has extramarital affairs weekly? What If your spouse belittles you hourly or abuses you? Or what if  the person you married dramatically changes there values or decides they no longer want to work on the relationship and gives up on life? How long could you take that? And if one could take that, would we still love that person?

Unconditional love is a fairy tale love. However there is only one place it can be seen is by God. God loves unconditionally. It says in the bible that God shows his love by he sent his son Jesus to die on the cross for us while we were still sinners. Romans 5:8 Whoa. Imagine when everyone was the worse of the worst God offered his son to die on our behalf. Take a moment think of your spouse if they were the worst they have ever been in their whole life. If you met them in that moment, would you have still fallen in love with them?  If we are honest, we probably wouldn’t have chosen them then.  No restrictions. No reservations. God’s love is unconditional. Given freely; however, this great love is often missed because we interpret his love like how we interpret our love, with expectations. Something to consider that I believe is that God loves you as much as he possibly can right now, just as much as he does the drunk on the street. He also says there is nothing that can separate us from his love (no conditions) the only thing that can separate us from his love is our own choice to not receive it. Sadly some won’t. But think for a moment there is nothing you can do to make God love you any less and for that or more. His love is unconditional. Now some feels that makes his love cheap but I feel it’s worth more then gold. That his love unites rather then divides. His love conquers and endures rather then fades. His love is unconditional. Have you met this kind of love seek it out he wants to give it to you. Question remains are you ready to receive a unfailing, unconditional love?


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